By Carmen Glover
Former NFL star Terrell Owens, whose career spanned stints with teams such as the Dallas Cowboys, Philadelphia Eagles, San Francisco 49ers and the Cincinnati Bengals, has been a man without a team since the 2010 season. He’s broke and has experienced ongoing legal wrangling with the four women with whom he fathered four children. His life is a canvas of tattered relationships, littered with the debris of arrogance, poor choices and an unwillingness to embrace good advice. On Saturday night, November 2, that changed.
In what can only be described as compelling television, Owens removed the covering of his life, humbled himself and asked for help. And he asked the right person: Iyanla Vanzant. In the season premiere of her noteworthy show “Iyanla Fix My Life,” Vanzant met with Owens and talked to him in a loving, compassionate, but firm tone while encouraging him to face his fears and examine his life honestly “with no excuses.” What transpired was an episode that caused social media sites to light up as viewers sent out tweets in minute-by -minute commentaries.
Owens exposed the raw pain and anguish he has been hiding all these years, which drove his insatiable passion to showboat excessively and disrupt team chemistry to the point that he was labeled “a cancer in the locker room.” At the heart of his hurt is the sense of rejection he has tried to ignore, borne out of the reality that at the age of 12, when he expressed interest in a girl who lived across the street from the home he shared with his maternal grandmother, he was told that he could not like the girl because she was his sister. Owens father, a married man with a family, impregnated Owens’ mother when the father was 30 and the mother a mere 16 year-old girl. To add insult to injury, neither parent discussed the matter with Owens, who grew up seeing his father share special moments with the children from the marriage, while ignoring the vulnerable Owens, his only son: the child who needs a father to shape him into manhood.
Parents often say that they do the best they can at the time. And Owens’ parents were no different in the episode of “Iyanla Fix My Life.” But the sadness that emanated from Owens when his father finally embraced him, told him he loved him (which he has never done before in Owens’ 39 years on this earth) and asked for his forgiveness, was difficult. Owens came across as a broken, rejected and dejected 12-year-old child who just wants to feel loved, protected and accepted. Parents often realize too late that it is their job to love, protect and build the confidence and character of their children. Owens’ life is evidence that despite exceptional talent, career opportunities and celebrity status, nothing is as instrumental to a child’s fundamental development as the comfort that child gets from knowing innately that he/she is being raised in an environment of love, encouragement, acceptance and support. –OnPointPress. net